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Genderqueer Links and Books

The following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources for learning and/or places of connection that relate to genderqueer concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID ask box or submit form (select Submit a Link from the drop-down). If you are instead looking for the bibliography for the Genderqueer History and Identities project, click here.

     Links:

Genderqueer-friendly Tumblrs: Androgynites Unite, Anything But Binary, Ask a Non-Binary, Break the Binary, LGBTQ Advice, Fuck Yeah Androgyny!, Fuck Yeah Bigender!, Fuck Yeah Genderless, Fuck Yeah Gender Studies!, Fuck Yeah, Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah Non-Binary Seahorse, The Gender Book, Genderforkr,Gender Queeries, Genderqueer, GQ Moments, KNOW Homo, Neutrois, Nonbinary Autistics!, Non Binary Confessions, Non-Binary Folk, no gender rules, Practical Androgyny, Queer Dictionary, STFU Binarists, Trans Parrotfish, Trans* Transgressions, Trans* Tumblr Directory, TRANSPRIDE

GQ-friendly Livejournal Communities: Androgynes, Bigender, Birls, Gender Blur,gender_fluid, Genderqueer, Girlfags and Guydykes, Transgender

Websites and FAQS: Androgyny Rarely Asked Questions, Chroanagram, Genderfork, Genderology, Genderpedia, Genderqueer in the UK, GenderQueer Revolution, Gender Sphere, The Midwest Trans & Queer Wellness Initiative, pipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender Variance, Practical Androgyny, Questioning Transphobia, T-Vox

Organizations and Events: Click here for a list.

Forums: Laura’s Playground, Susan’s Place, TransYada, What is Gender?

Identity Sites: Androgyne Online, Bi-Gender the Bisexual Partner,GirlFags, Neutrois.com/Neutrois Outpost, Neutrois Nonsense

Prounouns and Titles: Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational Terms, Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog, Gender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer Titles, MIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun Usage

Articles: Click here for a list.

Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance: Genderqueer Chat, Gendercast: Our Transmasculine Genderqueery, Gender Queeries, Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun to play with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities), Midwest Genderqueer, regender: A Different Kind of Translator

Education: Gender Diversity Project, Gender Spectrum: Resources, Queer Teaching Tips, Safe Schools Coalition, TRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex Topics

The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less urgency, Dear Trevor is “an online non-time sensitive, Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is available as well.

Banner: This Journal is Gay/Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Intersex, Genderqueer, Asexual Positive (with flags; without flags). Designed by nethdugan.

     Books: 

Note: Try Worldcat.org to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you!

Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us - Kate Bornstein

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation - Kate Bornstein

My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely - Kate Bornstein

Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws - Kate Bornstein

Books and essays by Ivan Coyote

GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary - Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell

Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality - Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel

Queer Theory, Gender Theory - Riki Anne Wilchins

Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender - Riki Anne Wilchins

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) - Laura Erickson-Schroth

Feeling Wrong in Your Own Body: Understanding What It Means to Be Transgender - Jamie A. Seba

That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men - Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green

Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity - Reid Vanderburgh

I’m amazed and proud that the Genderqueer Identities resource list has been reblogged 800+ times! Now updated with links newly added since this was originally posted. Let’s keep passing it on.

andythenerd:

It only does if you need to change it. Or if you want to change it, that’s valid, too. Your body does not make you “less” your gender. It doesn’t make you “not really” your gender. It doesn’t mean you’re trapped in someone else’s body. You do not have to fix your body to “become” your gender- you already are your gender. All you need to do is what you need to do to be comfortable in your body. And if that includes reclaiming your right to label your own body, you are allowed to do that.

If I already am the gender I am, no matter what my body type, then it can be neither right nor wrong to change or not change my body.  The sad fact is, society both refuses to recognize people’s genders except by doing a panty-check, then also makes the means of changing one’s body out-of-reach to most people.  That is cis privilege: your body is not questioned nor your medical care denied you on the basis of being the “wrong” gender.  As a genderqueer person, there is no body type that society will accept as being the “correct” one for my gender.  I don’t know if I’m more confounded or liberated by that fact - I’ll have to get back to you on that.

andythenerd:

(so long as you aren’t trying to do so while stopping others from being who they are) and is not a reason why people don’t have to treat you with respect. There is nothing wrong with being a feminine man or masculine woman, or being a person who’s comfortable in their body, or being a person who doesn’t transition “all the way”, or being out about having a non-binary or genderqueer gender. You have not “failed” anyone by doing this, you are not “less” of your gender than someone else. Being who you are is not a valid argument for why people can’t treat you as who you truly are.

People ask me what makes me different from a woman who bucks all the gender roles but is still a woman.  My answer is typically “she’s a woman”.  Also, it’s ridiculous to imply that all people who buck gender roles do so in the same way and out of the same motivation.  Some people do it for fun, some for politics, some for deep personal fulfillment, some for money, etc.  I only can present my own experience.  To say that I or anyone else is “doing it wrong” implies that we somehow owe you our gender.  I owe it to myself to be myself for myself, and that’s it.